My new boss came in yesterday, and said, "oh, by the way, several of your 'women' came over last week to complain about you. [The HR director] said she told them to 'grow up'."
Me: What did they say?
Him: "Not important. Just remember it's NOT about YOU, it's about THEM."
uh, no. If they are complaining, I WANT TO KNOW what they are saying. It IS important to me that I know. that was part of the problem before.
But anyway, the bugging part. I'd only been working at that point less than four days (short week due to 4th of July holiday) -- Why can't they bring a complaint to ME instead of running to the city/county manager? A guy has a problem, comes in 'Hey, Bill, got a minute? Something bothering me about something" and we hash it out then go out for a beer. Not women, they have to be more underhanded about it. They don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you, or risk reprising the 'war between the sexes'.
Now I don't want to generalize, but this is the SECOND place in which this has happened. And both times, the staff said "Yay! We need a man in this place, too many women", then they complain to the Manager that the 'Man' they hired does not act more like a woman, and they can't work like this. (paraphrasing, since I don't know what this group -- or how many there were -- actually said.)
Oh, come on. Why can't we all just get along? It seems my worst feelings of foreboding were not unfounded after all.